Friday, January 27, 2012

Boost Versus College


Mommy, Can I play Nick Jr. Boost?

No.

But I waaaaaaaant to! Pleeeeeeeease!

No.  I told you it costs money.  I just spent a bunch of money on LEGO and Bakugan.  You can play the free games on Nick Jr. but I'm not paying for Boost.

But I have money.  I have the money that TT gave me for college.

No.

Pleeeeeeease.  I neeeeed to play Boost.

No you don't.

But I'm not going to college.

[sigh]

(Stay tuned.  We are currently in negotiations that if he does chores every day he can get $1 a day.  Boost costs $7.)


Thursday, January 26, 2012

A Curve in The Road


Packing up the night before it hadn’t occurred to me that we could go in a ditch, that my Subaru could keep sliding as the road curved.  And to be honest, even after we saw the first pile-up of cars where I-90 turns and crosses the Mississippi River in La Crosse, I wasn’t concerned about the roads.  I had called my mother and told her I was watching the weather, and I had checked the forecast at least thirty times that morning.  The Weather Channel and all the local TV stations had said the worst of the snow would move in between 11am and 5pm, and up until the moment we got on the road just after noon, I wasn’t sure if we should go early and try to get ahead of it or wait and go in the morning.


We had planned our trip to Great Wolf Lodge in Wisconsin Dells months ago, and Sam had been counting the days until we stayed at “TT’s hotel.”  A year and a half ago we’d stayed at TT’s hotel in Chicago on our way to visit relatives in Michigan, and last summer we stayed at TT’s hotel in Milwaukee while I ran in a 5-mile race to raise money for Children’s Hospital.  TT is Sam’s grandma, and when we travel with her we stay in her hotels.  TT’s hotel in The Dells has a waterpark, and we’d all been looking forward to this trip long before January first pretended to be spring and then quickly turned frigid and reminded us of her true colors.

We were in the car about twenty-five minutes when we came across an accident scene just after we crossed in to Wisconsin.  Traffic that had been moving a steady sixty miles an hour came to a sudden stop, and I pushed the brakes slowly and thanked God the semi behind me had been following a safe distance.  Eva was still awake because Sam had been screaming for several minutes that he couldn’t get his Leapster Explorer to do something he was absolutely sure it should do.  I had long since given up on trying to convince him to be quiet and let me concentrate.

“Look at the fire trucks,” I said, and Sam looked up, suddenly quiet.

Mangled pieces of cars and SUVs littered the ditch and four or five firemen in coats with bright yellow striping lifted a woman wrapped in black blankets on to a stretcher.  Her neck was in a brace and the SUV next to her was bent and caved in on one side.

“See why you need to be quiet and let me focus on driving?” I said without thinking, just grateful for a reprieve from the back seat screaming.  “It is very dangerous out here.  I would not want to go in the ditch.”  My hands gripped the wheel and traffic crept forward and I glanced at the cars facing the wrong direction on the other side of the highway.

Sam looked up at the two firetrucks with flashing red lights and the smaller ambulance parked in front of it.  He said nothing.

“Look at the firemen,” I said.  “They are helping that lady.  They’re going to take her to the hospital.” 

Traffic merged in to one lane and I let the semi next to me pull ahead of us.  I turned on the wipers and sprayed the windshield with blue fluid that froze almost immediately.

“Don’t worry, Mommy,” Sam finally spoke just before going back to his video game.  “They can fix her.”

The accident scene scared me, made me hold the wheel a little tighter, let up on the accelerator slightly, focus more intently on staying at least six car lengths behind the vehicle in front of me. 

Sam was, thankfully, unaffected.  My anxiety hadn’t spread.  About five miles later as I quietly cursed at a souped-up pickup that whizzed past us and then switched back in to our lane leaving us in a white out right behind his bumper, Sam started yelling about needing something to drink RIGHT NOW and when-are-we-going-to-get-there and “Where else does TT have hotels that we can go to?”   By the time we arrived safely at TT’s hotel an hour later my fingers were cramped and the sides of the windshield were caked with blue ice, and Sam and Eva were sound asleep in the back seat. 

This story originally appeared here.

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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Present in PJ's and Swimsuits


This morning a friend's facebook status was about the masseuse who wore earphones and an ipod while giving her a massage in Luang Prabang.  I've been watching this woman travel around the world for months.  She's been to South America and Thailand and India and Laos.  She's bathed in outdoor jungle pools, done yoga on beaches in both hemispheres, swum with elephants in Asian rivers and watched the sunrise over the Ganges.  Every day is a new adventure, and when she mentioned the masseuse with the earphones it reminded me of how important it is to be mindful and present, to be engaged with your life, this moment... wherever you are and whatever you're doing.  



It's harder to do now that we're back into our daily routine, but this past weekend at The Great Wolf Lodge we all had all our gears turning.  TT came and spent the weekend with us, and we ventured forth during a blizzard to get there Friday afternoon.  From the bright pink fluorescents and blinking lights of the arcade to the heat and steam surrounding the waterslides for children under 48" to the quiet story-hour in the great atrium and the owl and squirrel and beaver who sang about the rhythym of nature to the 4-story netting we climbed and the magic wands we waved at Magiquest to the way my son splashed himself face first over and over again into the rogue waves of the wave pool, I was fully present and engaged nearly every moment.  It's not the Great Wall of China or Chichen Itza, and there weren't breathtaking views of the Canadian Rockies or the surf on the Pacific, but I got to watch my son run and run and run and run, laughing and smiling through each new adventure, dressed either in his pajamas or a swimsuit.  And Sunday I got to watch him sleep until 9:30am.











Thanks TT for making it all possible... and for spending so much time with the little girl that adores you so Sam and I could go on all these adventures!






Saturday, January 21, 2012

Surviving January


Yes, I'm torturing my son by putting him in swimming lessons at the Y.  He asked to take them but now he hates that the water is over his head and he doesn't get to wear "a floating thing."  Every Monday morning on the way in to town when I tell him that he has swimming lessons tonight he whines that he doesn't want to go, that he's afraid, that he knows how to swim and doesn't need lessons.  Anyone who has any suggestions of how to help with this, I'd love to hear them.  And if anyone has ideas about how to manage a precocious 15-month-old toddler and keep her from drowning herself while you try to coax a reluctant 4-year-old into the water, I'd love to hear those ideas too. 

Here are some more photos from other random things we're doing to survive January.








Wednesday, January 18, 2012

What Color Straw

It is a cold Saturday in January, and Sam sits on a stool at the kitchen counter. A lukewarm cup of hot cocoa "in the tree cup, in the tree cup" sits on the counter in front of him. I dare not just hand him a straw without asking first.

What color straw do you want, Sammy?

Is there football on today?

Yes. What color straw?

What teams are playing?

The Atlanta Falcons and The New Orleans Saints. What color straw do you want?!

Who do you want to win?

I guess the Falcons. What color straw?!

What color are the Falcons?

Red and black. What color straw?

Red.

[sigh]

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

The Last Hurrah

 Eva on game day.  
(She no longer has Packer gear that fits.)

 After TT's challenging 8 hours during the last game of the season, I decided to leave Sam behind at Jamie's house, and Eva and I traveled to Green Bay for the first round playoff game.  Unfortunately the first round ended up being the last one for our team, but I had a blast getting a break from kids and spending time with old friends.  Thanks, Kelly, for inviting me to come along!

 Eva loves the potty seat at TT's house.

 TT distracts Eva with mashed potatos as Mommy heads out to tailgate.


 Stadiumview before the game

 Missy, Barb and Kelly

 Anticipating a win as we head to Lambeau


 Still hopeful

Reconnecting with old friends Garet and Michelle

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Hamilton and Stella




















The long-awaited playdate.  It had been way too long since we last saw these friends, and we were all so happy to see them.










Monday, January 9, 2012

Gamefly

I present evidence that perhaps Sam has spent too much time with his Leapster Explorer and ESPN and Fox Sports during the last few weeks. Keep in mind that the NFL playoffs are in full gear... as well as the Rose Bowl and the Outback Bowl and various other football games that I should probably care less about but they somehow provide relief to an exhausted single parent of a boy who NEVER sits still (except when he's doing LEGO or Leapster Explorer or watching football). I used to pay a lot more attention to what the commercials were during football games, concerned that Sam was being exposed to violence or near-naked women trying to sell him beer. But when the baby needs changing or nursing RIGHT NOW I just leave the room to take care of her. Sam says "I want that" during every single commercial during Saturday cartoons, making sure that I understand how important the newest matchbox racing toy is or how every boy needs a pillow that folds into a pet. But he doesn't pay much attention to the commercials during football. Or so I thought.

Last night after Eva was in bed, I went to check my email once really quickly before heading to the bedroom for Sam's 3 books and a talk-about-our-day routine that we've been doing since Sam could talk. In the lowlight of the kitchen Sam sat on the wooden stool next to mine and said, "Mommy, can we go to gamefly.com and download a new game to my Leapster?"

Oh my.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Packers Vs Lions


In the car on the way across Wisconsin Sam is still conflicted.

“I love Green Bay and I love Aaron Rodgers, but I also like the Lions,” he tells me. He wonders if Jack’s daddy would be sad if the Packers won. “What if the Packers won by just a little?”

Jack’s Daddy is my cousin John and he’s joining me at Lambeau Field for the final game of the season. Sam has been speculating on the outcome all morning. What if the Lions had forty-eighty and the Packers had twenty-seven? What if the Lions had one hundred and the Packers had zero? What if the Lions had eleventy-seven?

A few weeks ago, the weekend of Sam’s 4th birthday, the Packers were still undefeated and Sam wanted to know what color the Kansas City Chiefs wore. When I told him red, Sam insisted on wearing a red t-shirt despite the pile of Green Bay Packer clothing that he’s accumulated over the last few years.

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Here are some photos from our weekend at Grandma's. We won't talk about how Grandma barely survived her 8 hours alone with the kids and her story of Sammy swearing (I didn't teach him that), and we won't talk about how TT's phone called Auntie Annie and left a voicemail of the kids screaming. Thanks TT for making it all possible!


Packers versus Lions, Round One


Funny Face Contest

Sammy's entry in the face making contest


What's a Lambeau tailgate without a Bloody Mary?

Eva on Game Day


Cousins at Lambeau


John and Micah at Lambeau


Kelly is the best fan to sit next to
(binoculars, bench-warming blanket, endless knowledge about the game)