Thanks for coming to visit us. I started this blog to follow my quest to become a Single Mother by Choice. When Sam was born this became the place to share our story and contemplate our unusual family as it evolves and grows... and with the arrival of Eva we became a family of three. Stay tuned for stories of growth and change, as well as frustration and exhaustion, compassion and love, joy and delight.
Thursday, June 11, 2015
Tuesday, May 5, 2015
So Much Like Auntie Annie
She would not even let Jamie help her
When Ann and I were old enough to care, we would look
through old photos that were scotch-taped into those sticky clear film photo
albums and look back at the adventures we had as kids. And inevitably it would come up that there
were more pictures of me. Where was the
picture of Mom when she was pregnant with Ann?
Where was a picture of Ann riding a trike? Why weren’t there any pictures of Ann with
her face smeared with dirt in the backyard in Michigan? The two pictures I recall of Ann’s childhood
are one where she’s trying to guzzle from a capped beer bottle in the kitchen
in Portage and another where she is holding up Aunt Judy’s pregnancy underwear
when Julie was a few weeks away from entering our lives. Ann didn’t even have her own baby book. The seldom recorded statistics of her
toddlerhood were scribbled in the margins of my baby book that had been filled
out 2 years earlier.
It’s true. Second
kids get the short end of the stick. And
so it’s been with Eva. She’s starting
soccer and dance class and learning to ride a bike without training wheels and
rapidly turning into a “big girl” right before my eyes, but none of those
things have resulted in a blog post to celebrate the event. None of these resulted in Mommy sitting down
to reflect on how grateful and blessed she is to have this child and this
life.
Sam invited a friend from the Y over this weekend, and when
the new mom, a mom I didn’t really know yet, saw Eva she kept saying “she’s
adorable. She’s adorable.” And I thought, yah, I guess she is. I’ve been so busy trying to balance the needs
of two children while working full time that I rarely slow down and appreciate
this adorable creature who is growing up right before my eyes. I listen to the endless mom-mom-moms every
day and hear myself constantly sighing and saying “just a second” more than I
ever imagined I would, and when Eva wants to talk and talk and talk in the car
I often just want a few moments peace without any noise. But yesterday when I pulled up to the daycare
and Eva wanted to show me how she could now ride a big girl bike without training
wheels, I saw it. I stopped and saw my
daughter and her incredible determination and persistence and expressive
joy. And yes, she is adorable.
As was Annie. ( Even if we have very little photographic
evidence of it.)
Tiny Tots Soccer
Creative Movement Dance Class
Helping Mommy Plant the Spring Garden
Fearlessly Loving Every Slide (big and small) at Great Wolf Lodge
Doing Girlie Stuff with Brooklynn
"I can do it myself!" is something she says often.
Painting Her Own Bedroom Mural
Skating with Harmony
Hanging in the Tree House in Winter
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
Balancing
One night last week Sam came home from school and went right to the piles of Lego and paper and markers and tape that have recently engulfed our dining room table. He told me he was working on a project and I wasn't allowed to know what it was until he was done. He made a cone of paper and fed it through the hole in the center of his new wooden ruler, and then he balanced it on a tower of Lego and began forming little pans on either side. He later explained that he wanted to be able to measure which is heavier when he compares various sized Lego bricks so it's a balance scale. His first grade teacher said it was an interesting idea since they are currently learning about balancing both sides of an equation. Sam keeps telling me he wants to be a singer when he grows up (despite having what he calls severe stage fright), but he also tells me he's smart enough to be an engineer if he wants to. My little Renaissance man will, perhaps, be balancing his left and right brain his whole life.
Wednesday, January 7, 2015
Animal Kingdom
Despite surviving the crowds of Magic Kingdom and a late night bedtime, I still approached day 2 with caution. I lightened the snack load in the backpack (who were we kidding the kids were going to talk me into the quick and easy ice cream treats?) and added sunscreen and some water bottles, and we headed in to our second Disney park, Animal Kingdom. From the second we entered the park the experience was different... shade and wide open space and a feeling that my children could run far ahead of me without me losing them. We were greeted by a walking tree (a woman on stilts painted in green) and wound our way through a few animal exhibits before the Tree of Life appeared before us and we entered our first show.. The Bug's Life view of life from a bug's POV. The dark, spooky theater with a 3D movie that had bees buzzing us and other insects poking us and squirming around beneath our seats got the kids excited for the adventures that were ahead of us. Nemo's musical puppet show and Simba's theater in the round and a relaxing Safari mid day in which Sammy dozed a little on my lap. Following the long day at Magic Kingdom, it was no surprise that the kids started to crash in the early afternoon, but a frozen coke and some exciting dancing in the streets and they were ready for the fun of Dinoland including arcade games and face painting. The highlight of the day was the way Eva wanted to dance for hours with the Jamaican street band. Is it any wonder she didn't make it back to the park entrance without collapsing in her stroller? We will definitely go back to Animal Kingdom.
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Disney
I'm so behind in getting pictures up, but even without the pictures I'll never forget how it felt to walk along Main Street with TT and the kids, Cinderella's castle in view and It's A Small World and Pirates of the Caribbean and The Swiss Family Robinson Tree House waiting for us. The crowds were tremendous, and we had a scary moment early on when Sam got lost (and showed a shop manager the phone number I'd written on the top of his leg in sharpie), but with so much magic and wonder and excitement all around, it would be hard not to love a day at Disney with my kids. When we sat down on the It's A Small World boat for our first ride and Sam snuggled in under TT's arm and the little children's voices starting singing, I got tears in my eyes. THIS was the moment I had wanted, TT and her grandchildren and the ride that started it all for our family back nearly four decades ago. We spent a lot more money than I expected (when it's hot and crowded and you just want a break from the noise, kids can easily convince you that a Mickey Mouse ice cream bar or a $6 hot dog would be way better options than the snacks you've been lugging around in your backpack) and we stayed way beyond the time I thought we would, but we rode over 10 rides, ending with a dark and spooky Pirates of The Caribbean that the kids didn't quite understand (why are they acting silly? what is rum?). And when we returned to the park entrance at close to 9pm, Sam decided the one toy he wanted to purchase was the Mickey Mouse Wizard Hat he had picked out when we first walked in that morning.
Sam's Wizard Hat
It's a Small World
It's a Small World
It's a Small World
Rope Bridge
Fantasyland Carousel
Flying Magic Carpet Ride
Jungle Cruise
Selfie on Madhatter's Tea Party Ride
Riverboat Cruise
Riverboat Cruise
Riverboat Cruise
Sam studies the water lifting operation in the Swiss Family Robinson Tree House
Swiss Family Robinson Treehouse
One last look at Cinderella's Castle as we leave the Magic Kingdom
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